The rapid advancement of technology has significantly impacted various aspects of daily life, including the realm of online dating. In recent years, the landscape of dating has undergone a dramatic shift, with a particular acceleration in changes brought about by the COVID-19 pandemic. A panel discussion at Tech Show London on March 12th, 2025, held at ExCeL London, delved into the impact of the pandemic on online dating and the subsequent increase in dating scams.
Simon Newman, CEO of the Online Dating and Discovery Association (ODDA), and Becky Holmes, author of “Keanu Reeves Is Not In Love With You,” participated in a panel discussion moderated by Stephanie Hare. The topic of discussion was centered around combating romance fraud through ethical app design and communication strategies.
The panel highlighted the delicate balance between user experience and safety in the realm of online dating. Trust and safety are crucial components, but maintaining an element of fun is also essential. The challenge lies in finding a way to incorporate necessary safety measures without compromising the user experience. The solution proposed by Newman and Holmes is the introduction of more “friction” in the online dating process.
Friction, in this context, refers to additional security checks and verification processes designed to ensure user safety and prevent fraudulent activities. These checks may include ID verification, image verification, and measures to prevent AI and deepfake scams. While reducing friction is typically the goal for app designers, in the case of online dating, some level of friction is necessary to enhance user safety.
As technology continues to evolve, these verification processes are expected to become more efficient and seamlessly integrated into the user experience. However, it is crucial that these safety measures are engaging and user-friendly to encourage compliance and participation.
The discussion also delved into the accountability of online platforms in ensuring user safety. The Online Safety Act has introduced measures to hold organizations accountable for user safety, emphasizing age verification and the duty of care to protect users from harmful content. Additionally, the prevalence of deepfake technology poses a significant challenge for online dating platforms, requiring enhanced education and awareness to combat these emerging threats.
In conclusion, the panel emphasized the importance of user education, reporting mechanisms for fraudulent activities, and the implementation of innovative solutions to protect users from dating scams. By incorporating a combination of technological solutions, regulatory measures, and user empowerment strategies, online dating platforms can work towards making dating scams less attractive and safeguarding the experiences of their users.

